7个技巧立刻提升沟通能力( 四 )

And they can even talk about ghost stories.
这些都是可以从陈述句里切分出来的话题
All of these can be branched off of this statement.
接下来我们有冷读陈述
Next up we have the cold read statement.
面对刚认识的人这是一种很好的陈述方式
This is a great way to use statements with someone you just met.
简单来说这是你对对方的观察
Simple put, it’s an observation that you make about the other person.
比起说一说
Instead of saying something like,” Hey,
“嘿你想玩点什么”
what do you like to do for fun.”
不如说 “嘿你看起来是个有趣的人
You can say something like,”Hey, you look like a fun person.
我猜你有一些有趣的爱好”
I bet you have some interesting hobbies.”
这是一种很好的技巧因为对方能以三种方式回应
This is a great trick because the person can respond in three different ways.
第一你错了所以他们会纠正你
Number 1: You’re wrong, and they’ll correct you.
我一点儿也不有趣
I’m actually not fun.
我整天睡觉
I sleep all day.
第二虽然你错了
Number 2: You’re wrong but,
但是对方会问你你为什么会这样想
you’ll be asked why you thought so.
“实际上我无趣得很不过
“I’m actually not fun but,
我好奇是你为什么会这样想我”
I’m curious as to why you thought I was.
第三你是对的
Number 3: You’re correct and a large amount
然后你们立马热络起来
of rapport will be built instantaneously.
我爱好挺广泛的我喜欢唱歌和跳舞
I am fun, I love to dance and sing.
你是怎么知道的
How did you know?!?
三者中的任何一个都让你有机会
Each of these ways gives you many more
把话题切分开来
opportunities to branch off into different topics as compared
而不是仅问一句“你玩什么呀”
to the simple question,”What do you do for fun?”
所以说首先你得分享信息
So you’re sharing information first,
而且你还不能奢求回应
and you’re not asking anything from them.
该让对方决定怎么来回应
and you’re not asking anything from them.
最后我们有一种随机陈述
And finally we have the random statement.
他们是完全随机的
They’re completely random statements that
也就是说他们是那些刚好蹦到你脑中的东西
are literally the thoughts that just pop into your mind.
这种随机陈述可以是任何东西
They can range from anything about;
你周围发生的事情啦你观察到的东西啦故事啦
things that are happening around you, or observations, stories,
或者是临时想到的什么东西
random thoughts.
你能说的东西非常多
There’s a whole lot of things that you can talk about.
下面是一些例子
Here’s some examples:
我受够了我的那群朋友他们成天谈运动
I’m tired of my friends all they talk about is sports all day.
瞧瞧这个人他玩的好开心
Look at that guy, he’s having so much fun.
我也想有那么潇洒
I wish I could be that loose.
我打算休课一年
I’m thinking about taking a year off from school.
每一条陈述都分享了很多你的信息
Each of these statements share a lot of information about yourself.
同时它们也提供了许多可切分的话题
They also provide multiple topics to branch off into.
最后它们还让对话产生了一种新奇感让它无意识的进行下去
And finally they bring a sense of creativity and spontaneous-ness to the conversation.